Relations - An emotional texture.

Relations by their quintessential sense mean a logical or natural association between two things, bodies or entities. While some relations are mutual give and take, a few are emotionally driven affinities. But irrespective of their nature, they all, at some point or the other, run close to the heart.

The unconditional love of a mother for her child, the protectiveness of a father and the lies of a sibling to save us from our parents are some of the heart touching relations we see. Some get more, some get less but overall we all have some sort of love around us. Love of the auto driver dropping us at school, love of the school maid, love of the child mimicry artists: our relatives, love of the warning watchman, love of the house maid, love of the dad's colleagues and much more is always encapsulating us.

While we live in a world full of love, isn't it quite easy to attached to it. Sometimes, we grow up, or we lose those people, or we are left with a broken relation, doesn't that hurt! The feeling of pain due to the absence of someone from our day to day routine is quite normal. But how far can this go! They say we can control our emotions. But when it comes to the lose of people who are close to us, even the strongest ones feel it, they just might not show. With attachment comes pain. But it is the cycle of life, which makes us stronger and  better every time.

Death and other natural causes can't be helped, but we can help what is in our hands. Some relations end because of possessiveness, some end because of lack of trust and some end because of misunderstandings. Ultimately, whatever the reason is the end is not such a positive attribute. When we love a person, most of us try to keep them very close to us. If we want to hold some water in your palm, we make your palm hollow to hold some water. Instead, if we flatten your palm or if we hold tight enough to make it a fist, we spill all the water. Relations run by the same analogy, the balance between the extremes is what makes a relation.

Some relations end in suicides, emotional dramas, physical fights and also mental traumas. When the end has such adverse affects, then whey end? Some argue, the end is what teaches us to start correct. Well, if that is the case then life will be like a never ending loop. At some point or the other, we need to stop the loop, to live. Although, short stories make up minute happenings of our times, its ultimately the long ones that tell our story.

With breaking relations and ending ties, some aspects of us just become numb. But we can forget and let go or we can hope that the rising sun fixes everything. The choice is ours. The ones that matter the most stay the most.

A relation is like a thread. Once broken, it's hard to tie. Once tied, it always has a knot.

Achieving a dream or Dreaming an achievement?

"Instead of dreaming about your life after four years, take one step at a time and plan for the day," says Brittney Lane, a 4.0 graduate from Harvard University. She believes success lies in attributing time to achieving things rather than dreaming immensely about the future. Likewise, history has seen likes of Bill Gates, Lary Page and Lalu Prasad Yadav who have come to where they stand by sheer hard work. These people themselves are astonished by their success.

On the other hand, "One Vision, One Dream" was the popular slogan of Dhirubhai Ambani's saga of life. He dreamed of success in every field he entered. Finding people of such vision is a petty task in a developing country like India. Dr. Manmohan Singh, the honorary Prime Minister of India, had a dream of seeing India free of the economic barriers of the early 90's. His fiscal policies have made India's dream of being a superpower even more stronger.

But who do we need? Dreamers or Achievers? The debate about supremacy between dreamers and achievers has never come to a substantial end.

While a dream is the first step for achieving, sometimes it just seems a waste of time depending upon the final outcome. Traditionally, a dream has been defined as an aspiration or a will to succeed. A dream crafts the path to success, and with added hard work it can lead to great achievements.

While most of the youngsters dream about having a bright future, only a few actually work hard for it. The reason being dreaming is comforting and achieving is hard work. Many a times people feel they are just dreamers and haven't achieved much. This by most measures leads to a certain level of disdain towards their self esteem. Although the process of dreaming can lead to self-destructive results if not kept in the right direction, dreaming enhances the ability to do. It sets up a goal to go achieve. Even if the path may not show results for dreamers, ones who dream are the ones who do.

"The world needs dreamers and the world needs doers, above all the world needs dreamers who do," quotes Sarah Ban Breathnach of the Simple Abundance fame.

People who can dream are the ones who can do

Characteristics of a society.

To understand the most important characteristics of a society, one must study its major cities.

Historically, major cities have provided a symbolic notation of a society. Indian mythology is based on the happenings of the main cities like Hindupur and Kakatiya. Likewise, modern day technological societies are symbolized by their major cities - Beijing is the hub of many Electronic companies, thus presenting China as a technological superpower.

Major cities provide the most evident social picture with a mixture of cultures, economics, politics and religions from all other parts of the society. New Delhi, the capital of India is mixed with modern day techies who work in call centers and manual labor that constitutes the Infrastructural advancement of the capital. Likewise, Tokyo presents an inseparable picture of technology and  culture. With the most number of Japanese Temples, Tokyo is  famous for its fast paced electronic environment.

Although the cities hold a significant part in curving a view of the society, smaller towns sometimes present a clearer picture. San Francisco is the tech-savvy city of the United States, but smaller towns like Orlando, Atlanta and New Jersey present the cultural and Socioeconomic picture of United States.

In contrast to the statement, the smaller towns and villages provide the back end culture of a society. With the abundance of such small towns, their culture can be seen as a generic trend of the society. With the core of Indian economy being agricultural advancements in such smaller towns, one cannot neglect the importance of such towns in shaping a panoramic view of the society.

In fact, smaller towns provide grass root level culture of the society on a whole. Nepal, for instance is a newly formed democracy with most of its major cities now being centers of social debates. But a large section of its society, smaller towns are still accustomed to the Kingdom rule that preceded the democratic endeavors of the society.

So, although major cities provide a larger picture of a society, one must not neglect the advancement of its smaller towns when considering the important characteristics of the society.

Love and its beauty.

"Love is giving someone the ability to destroy you, but trusting them not to."

Correlation with this is inherited I guess. Just cannot agree more. The way we share the darkest secrets of our lives with our loved ones and hope that they accept us as we are. Letting them in our family, career and personal decisions and trusting them to be there for you.

 In short, we give them access to everything we have and trust them to accept us as we are and keep the love going. Love of friends, partner, parents and family is just amazing. I feel the whole concept of love even in its premature stage is what makes living worth.

No man can survive this dysfunctional world without love. :)